It’s a known fact that counting our blessings often leads to getting more from life. And also probably the most important doorway to staying positive. The everyday stress, pressures, add to it the perfectly curated world of social media – staying positive is become harder than ever. Let us admit that we all collectively from time to time feel that there is forever something lacking in us or there are things (life stuff) that others have figured out and it remains elusive to us. All this makes it even more important that our kids are taught young the art of STAYING POSITIVE. This in turn will better prepare them to face the challenges of life.
Here below are five points which will help you in raising kids with a more positive outlook towards life (tip #4 is our favourite):
1.Teaching them young to give back
There is something about giving back or helping another fellow sister or brother. It always leaves one feeling good about themselves and about life in general. Teach them young the art of giving back. For E.G: if you’re kids are making 20 AED pocket money a month, then teach them to keep aside 2 AED (10% of total earnings) for a cause they think is dear to them. You might be thinking they are too young to have a cause dear to them. Trust us, it need not be anything grand or big and can be something as simple as buying pet food for stray animals and feeding them. Or bake cookies and distribute them in the neighbourhood. And when they are old enough and ready to actively participate they can then choose a cause of their own. Other benefits of doing this is, it keeps your kids grounded, keeps them in touch with reality (which is missing in today’s world) and helps them grow into caring, loving adults.
2.Leading the way as parents
It’s not a secret that kids look up to their parents, often copy them and their mannerism and want to be like them when they grow up. As parents it becomes our responsibility to lead the way and show them how staying positive during challenging times is important. There will come a time when they are faced with a challenging situation and they will think back to remember how their parents managed the situation and will try to replicate the same. Build the right environment at home and give them all the right reasons to believe that life is fun when approached positively.
3.Encouraging them to write ‘thank you’ notes
This one is not just for the kids, even we adults can practice it everyday. In our lives there is either place for gratitude or for sadness and never for both. Teach them young to be grateful for all that they have been blessed with. Encourage them to write two things they are grateful for every night. This will make them think through their day and pick two things that made them happy (however, they might have more than two things). They will then go to bed thinking about two things that made them thankful for that day. And before you know thankfulness has become a part of their routine and second nature.
4.Showering them with love when they are joyous
This is one of our absolute favourite things to do. As human beings we all love attention and appreciation. We learn very early in life that we get the most attention either when we are sick or when we cry. While kids crying is considered to be cute or a cry for help. Whereas as adults, the same behaviour may lead to us being diagnosed with clinical depression or anxiousness. So, how can this avoided you ask? It’s simple – shower your kids with love, affection and attention when they are JOYOUS. This will make them believe that it is fun to be joyous and without you having to put much effort your kids will develop a positive attitude.
5.Teaching them the value of delayed gratification
Confession time – we are all guilty of spoiling our kids with latest gadgets, branded clothes and shoes and much more. As parents we want the best for our kids and this makes it even more important that our kids learn the value of everything that’s been given to them. So, from time to time it’s necessary to delay gratification. This will only help in the long run as they will know that everything does not happen in life as we think and makes them more acceptable of failures.
And lastly, we all face difficult times and situations that makes us parents often wonder ‘where did we go wrong’. The truth is you’re not a bad parent, and there are few things our kids have to learn by making their own mistakes. Remember, mistakes are nothing but growth in disguise and at some point we all have made mistakes and learnt a lesson or two from it. Show them the way when they falter, because they are simply looking for someone to direct them. Breathe. Love. Live. Stay Positive.
By Megha Polali